Monday, July 2, 2012


Sorry to my readers that I haven't been blogging frequently. See I got married to my high school sweetheart I haven't been in contact with in over 10 years. Then a lot of drama started to happen right before our announcement of our pregnancy. Let's start by saying we have know each other since grade school attending most of the same schools over the years.

Participating in other programs in between school at the same time and socializing with each others family without even realizing. So the first time he attended my family's reunion he know a quarter of the people.

Just to make this clear my spouse and I didn't start speaking again until years after his divorce and his ex wife's remarriage. I was unsure to marry someone once divorce but since they had no kids, were not friends nor stayed in touch it seemed like their would not be much drama. Plus his charming, good looking and the fact were soul mates.

Well my husband received a call from his ex at his place of business. She knew were my spouse worked because her mom had told her and she found out he was married. We ran into his ex mother in law many many months ago my husband gave introductions.

The former mother in law, Angela and her bff seemed quite shocked that he had remarried.

Long story short Angela's actions and words didn't seem on the up and up. Not saying she wanted him back just she seemed miserable and resentful of his new found happiness. Like she was playing games and trying to cause us problems.

After several inappropriate behaviors such as a lot of hand touching that she displayed in front of myself and my husband. By the way my husband also remembers her touching his hand making a comment about how his hands looked. As well as displaying other inappropriate behaviors and ugly comments.

We decided as a team that this was not a person we want in our lives. Specially with a baby on the way we wanted boundaries and a good environment. I never once said anything hateful to her, no name calling, no fighting.

Angela was told how we felt about her actions assertively but gently. That we wish her the best and the time my husband shared with her was great but time to move on and give all he can to this our marriage.

She continued to text message my phone with her rude comments about my husband and their past. I asked her nicely to stop she didn't and I blocked her cell number. Then blocked Angela on facebook after she sent a message to my friend with a lot of hateful curse words.

Angela in order for me to be delusional I would have to not have text messages you sent my husband that support my claim your not trustworthy. That contradict every thing you left for me in your most resent message. That you just want a reaction and like drama in your life. It's apparent that it makes you feel alive and important. Why else are you still at it with contact?

If it was so innocent the flirting or your wish to be friends then why the lies afterwards? Remember when my husband told you he didn't like your over the top flirting at the wake? How you text message back that you did nothing wrong? Their was never to my husband any denial of your inappropriate behavior, but now the denial.

That your actions besides the touching didn't mean you want him and that your not that kind of person. How it was all very innocent and just your personality.

You asked my husband to be friends and further contact. So your saying then his a liar? You text my husband about further contact and being friends so you can't make me believe now that you never said that nor wanted to. Did you not send us a merry Christmas text message? If you didn't want anything else to do with him before he asked you to stop contact. Then why are their messages from you to my husband?

We asked you the first time in person not to contact us by cell or work phone only to the house phone. Meaning you didn't feel comfortable or the need to ever come over, call the house phone etc. Though you told my husband you wanted all of us to be friends and hang out.

My husband has proven himself worthy of trust. I have no doubts what so ever about my husbands integrity. I do however have serious doubt about yours ! My husband no longer uses my phone he decided it best after the way you have been behaving. I was lending him and now have the phone back in my possession so please forget the number for you will only be contacting Mrs.

My husband is the one that gently turned your offers down. I've got the text messages to prove it and saving face you are not in this case. At least your intentions don't seem honorable and we are allowed to our own adult mature interpretation to the situation.

I made that last comment because Brennan Angela's current spouse made the comment that my husband can't interpenetrate situations maturely. My husband is the type that wouldn't back me up on a lie. He also witness and interpreted the events as I did. His perception was similar to my own.

Well my friend received a strange and violate hateful message on facebook from my husbands ex. I was filled with lies and name calling of undesirable strong language such as witch but spelled with a B. A lot more then just calling me that name.

Remember Angela you were the one that kept contacting us and we did not initiate the contact. We did not ask you to be part of our lives, we didn't not call you at work or home. To try to be a part of my husband's life again is to be part of mine. You don't have to agree but that's just how it is for the rest of his life.

Her inclinations to be friends with my husband was just to try to create problems and undermine our relationship to give her pleasure. I base this on all her actions and words which I have not fully disclosed here on this blog. She is still very bitter about their divorce according to her messages.

Even though the divorce was many years ago, though she has remarried before my husband did she has yet to truly moved on. Moving on is letting go of your anger and letting go of my husband. Angela you have a right to your feelings but leave the past alone. We are no longer playing your games, you don't make the rules and our life choices are not our concern nor decision.

I have made a choice I choose not respond, not to let you get to me or your words, not let go of my power and not to hate. So I only say the following not to her but to my audience. Angela has given me a clear picture of who she really is and that she is not to be trusted.

Doesn't mean she's a bad person she just lies, starts trouble, doesn't respect our marriage and is very unhappy with herself.

I decided to not let her words get to me or think of her. I will pray for you to be happy. I will pray for myself to be able to forgive and forget. To learn to turn the other cheek. So I can be a better christian, mother, wife and person.

We are planning on the next phase of a wonderful life with our child and soon a house we will own. We will light a candle, pray for you at every opportunity we get, and wish for the two of you (Angela and her husband) only the best that life can offer. Life is too short and we only seldom get the chance to impress others with our kindness, compassion, humanity and love for our fellow person.

I trust this final goodbye will remind you of our best wishes and prayers for you every day of the rest of your lives. That you will remember us all the better. Blessing upon you and all that you endeavor! I forgive you, peace be with you, god bless.

Sincerely Me.

Thank to my readers for letting me share my life with you guys. More blogs and vlogs about makeup tips coming soon. Such as the modern smokey eye.

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